40 things I know are true in life, love, and work

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I’ll be forty years old in June. I can hardly believe it. I’m not a super smart person, but I have learned a few things in the four decades that I’ve been lucky enough to be on this big blue ball hurtling through space.

In no specific order, here are the 40 things I know are true about myself, people, life, work, and relationships.

  1. If you have kids, pets, or a combination of both, a carpet shampooer is a sound investment.
  2. If you don’t have time to clip coupons, comparing the unit prices on groceries is the best way to get the most bang for your buck. If the 10 oz. size is 14 cents more per unit than the 16 oz. size, get the 16 oz. You’ll get more for your money.
  3. It’s nice to have a lot of friends, but having one truly loyal friend who reciprocates the love you have for them is priceless.
  4. Surrounding yourself with piles of things doesn’t leave much space for family and friends to visit.
  5. Reading comprehension is a vitally important skill that contributes to your ability to learn throughout your lifetime. Read every book you can get your hands on.
  6. Shopping at thrift stores will save you tons of money on clothes and housewares. The inventory changes frequently, so wait a week and go back another day if you can’t find what you need.
  7. Sometimes the way to help someone who is freaking out is to sit beside them and hold their hand. Or put your arm around them. Most times, they don’t need or want advice… they just want to know someone cares.
  8. Grandparents aren’t around forever. If you’ve still got a full set and you’ve had time to love them all, you’re a lucky person.
  9. Building any skill takes time and diligence. (This is my watercolor story.)
  10. The more people you take on a road trip, the worse the trip. Opt for dogs whenever possible.
  11. The only thing worse than vomiting is having to be next to someone else while they are vomiting.
  12. The clearer and warmer the water, the more likely I am to get into it.
  13. While you’re on the road cussing out the driver in front of you, remember that someone else has definitely called you an “idiot” or an “asshole” just as many times from behind their own steering wheel.
  14. After having a house full of people for any stretch of time, silence is the sweetest sound you’ll ever hear.
  15. Intimate relationships are equal parts wonderful and aggravating.
  16. The best time to get anything complicated accomplished is when the boss leaves.
  17. Cussing is the only way to get your point across to people who only understand the importance of something when you cuss about it.
  18. When you only have three bad options in front of you, remember that there’s always a fourth: wait and see what happens.
  19. If you’re a sloppy drunk, don’t drink with your coworkers. If you don’t know if you’re a sloppy drunk, you definitely shouldn’t drink with your coworkers.
  20. No one deserves to know the details of your life. You can decide who to let in or who to shut out, and you can exercise that privilege at any time.
  21. It’s just as important to believe things may get better as it is to understand things may also get worse.
  22. Someone should have found a better way to do laundry by now.
  23. When you don’t understand what someone is trying to tell you, don’t ignore the possibility that he or she is a terrible communicator. Ask questions.
  24. Formal education does not make you smarter than someone who has no formal education. It just means you’re formally educated.
  25. Being cute when you’re twenty doesn’t mean you’ll be cute when you’re forty… but there’s always fifty.
  26. Unlike marriage, motherhood is not a temporary condition. Be careful who you allow to impregnate you.
  27. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed. It’s not okay to let it stop you from doing what you need to do.
  28. Working in the food service industry taught me everything I ever needed to know about eating out. No lemons in my glass of water, thank you.
  29. If we all rolled over and died every time we encountered conflict in our lives, there would be no one left to bury the bodies.
  30. There is an art to filling the air with words while saying absolutely nothing at all, and I never want to learn it.
  31. It’s easy to dismiss the value of art if you aren’t an artist. You can only understand the effort it takes to create art if you try to do it yourself.
  32. If you can do your job with a clear conscience, you’re better off than most people.
  33. Kids today don’t know how good they’ve got it. (This statement will always be true.)
  34. Paying to ship a box of souvenirs home is cheaper [and much more satisfying] than paying the airline to check another bag.
  35. If you can afford it, stay in a hotel while you’re in town visiting family. It will be better for everyone.
  36. When planning a wedding, don’t spend too much time picking out the cake or the flowers. The dress matters, the DJ matters, and of course, try to marry the right person.
  37. Nobody wants to be at work, so don’t make it worse by being the resident idiot or an asshole.
  38. Owning up to a mistake is the first step to correcting it.
  39. Mind your own business, unless you see someone getting hurt. Then it is your business.
  40. Nobody knows what they’re doing… not really. Do your research, show up, say what you know, listen to constructive criticism, take credit when it is extended, and share the credit with people who helped you get where you are. Repeat.

Thanks for reading!

Esther Hofknecht Curtis, MSM-HCA is a freelance writer living in Dover, Delaware. Follow her on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/TheArdentReader19977/notifications/.

Book nerd and freelance writer finding gold in ordinary places. Email me at ejhcurtis@gmail.com Visit https://www.facebook.com/TheArdentReader19977/

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